3), above and Inglis v Inglis, above by Sheriff Farrell at page 62) or immediate access to a sum of capital; If you or your ex-spouse or partner disagree, you can seek the help of a specially trained mediator or collaborative representative. Collaborative practice is a non-confrontational approach to agreeing on the legal, financial and practical arrangements for your separation and divorce. Led by a lawyer trained in collaborative law, who may involve other professionals, such as financial advisors and family counselors, to solve certain problems. They can help you talk about things that will help you agree on what you want to do. A separation agreement first defines how the various assets and liabilities are to be allocated and who is responsible for paying any joint invoices.